Not to put a fire in anyone’s underwear or to start competition (given we have a serious lack OF competition…) Those people who have their kids in arranged marriages do not feel like it is in stone!
Depending on the kids as they grow older and depending on the parents (on both sides) if there is a problem with the couple their arrangement will be canceled! For instance, if Kohana (not yet up but in tLoD) grows up to be some willful opinionated and inelegant creature then Saizo’s parents are going to call off the arrangement.
Likewise it is unwise to have more then one person in a family arranged into the same family. This is somewhat taking place right now with the Promatheas and if one of those kids from the other family (DuChance) slips up even a millimeter you can bet an arrangement will be called off.
I am letting you guys know this so that no one comes whining later going “But we had plans…” because plans get called or rearranged depending on how players play their characters. I figure this is a good enough warning for all.
Feel free to screw up, I want people to play their characters to their fullest and if that means sabotaging their arranged marriages then so be it. It gives more depth to the characters after all.